Who Drives Your Life? By Patricia Wall © 2007
Published Healthy Bodies, Healthy Minds Sep 2007
Everyone who drives has had the experience of arriving home and realizing they can’t remember the drive. Your mind wanders, and some other part of your brain did the actual driving. It can be unnerving, if you consider you might have an accident and have no idea how it happened. Apparently that other part of your brain is competent at driving you home.
A similar effect happens with cookies, or potato chips. You might decide you aren’t going to eat a cookie or potato chips. Then, you realize you’re into the bag and munching away. Some part of your mind is still thinking ‘I don’t want this’ as you munch. Or worse, you might find yourself standing with bag in hand, and realize you must have eaten them. Just like the drive home, some other part of your brain took over your behavior.
This phenomenon can sabotage conversations with your partner, your co-workers, or your kids. There are so many familiar scripts, and you just know how they’ll play out – who will say what and how it ends. You may wisely decide not to engage in that useless, distressing script – and then you find yourself saying the same old words, having the same old buttons pushed, and frustrated with yourself for falling for it yet again.
I lived all this. I lived it until I learned about the functions of my subconscious mind, and how to change those functions. At first it’s very disconcerting to accept that a piece of your subconscious is taking over the driver’s seat of your life and dictating your behavior. But when you realize you have the power to change it, that acceptance of your subconsious becomes a gateway to making powerful change in your life. Changing what you eat. Changing how other people treat you or how it affects you. Changing how you feel about yourself, because you’re able to make a decision and live that decision.
My first experience with the power of my subconscious mind occurred because I was in a four-car pile-up. After a year of western medicine I could stand for three minutes – then I’d fall down. I had to wear various pieces of equipment to do things like keep my legs in their sockets. That’s when I turned to alternative medicine – not actually expecting a result, but desperate. I was shocked when it worked – and I recovered.
As I learned about these ancient methods, I realized this work could be applied to other areas of my life. I studied and tested, and developed a program for dealing with food and weight issues. In the process I lost fifty pounds while still eating potato chips every day. (It’s an addiction, I admit it.) I realized I had to understand how my body interacted with food in a different way, by understanding how my subconscious mind interacted with food. And I could change it.
I was able to extend these applications to relationships, changing how people treat me and how I react to situations I used to find stressful.
I have developed workshops to share this knowledge and a set of powerful tools so that you can learn how to change your subconscious too. You can do as much or as little as you like. The joy is in being able to choose. You can make a decision about what you want your behavior to be, or how you want your life to be, and you can live that. You can make what you want happen in your life. It’s glorious. It’s exciting. It’s fun.
This is not a quick fix or a happy pill. Depending on the depth of your conditioning, it may take time to shift things. But when it shifts, it’s done. The buttons are disconnected and don’t get pushed any more. Diets are irrelevant, or become painless. The lid comes off and possibilities become a whole new world.
And best of all, you can learn to like yourself. You can like what you do, how you live, and what you experience. The new clothes in smaller sizes are great. The effects on your emotional life and your sex-life may be pretty surprising, in a very good way. But for me, that’s all a bonus, and the best part is feeling good about who I am.
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