Use the Sacred Space meditation to flush your weave.

When I look at that energy of that, there’s lines right into the fabric of what narcissism is, and how the structures of our culture are formed.  I’m watching this energy pattern and it’s thoroughly entwined in all sorts of things.

These are the pattern pieces, NOT the truth, so beware how you read them.   The pattern works like this:  parent projects that controlling people is for their own good, so the parent will be safe and the people will be safe — Parent projects that you should help parent control people to protect parent and to protect others, including you —Parent will hurt you to control them with message that’s the right thing for everyone — This gives belief that loving others requires that you allow them to hurt you, and specifically to hurt you to control others. That’s a really good summary of the whole narcissism model.

Consider how green box programs might come from religious teaching. The church stuff says you’re supposed to be forgiving and accepting and supportive and all that good stuff.  This is independent of circumstances, so it doesn’t specify ‘learn how to keep yourself safe from abusive people, and by the way forgiving someone does not mean you have them in your life.’   Without that protection of self, it’s victim programming.

On the other hand you’re supposed to do the ‘right thing.’  What does right thing mean, and how does it work with family loyalty, or social rules like laws?  Now there’s a recipe for contradiction.  It’s actually quite stunning in its ridiculousness when you look at it that way.  There’s no win.  It’s an eternal conflict – that would be very effective in achieving victim/peasant.

From the relationship angle, it’s pretty much the same model, isn’t it?  Do the right thing, be the perfect wife/husband.  What is that?  Take care of everyone else, have no demands or needs.  Be supportive and approving.  Have a ‘good’ family.  It’s all polar splits.  It’s all a mess.

When the contradictory social requirements are added to the green box traumas of childhood, a person has no idea how to know what feels right for them.  They create contradictory values inside themselves that propagate their struggles about what is right, so they feel uncertain.

Clearing green box traumas will allow you to define values for yourself that feel right, and let you know what to do in all situations.  Check out the unlock tool.

And since the God stuff is mirrored by your primary partner relationship, that would mean getting rained on whenever your partner is upset about something, even when it has nothing to do with you.

There’s a good one to clear.

Now take the same program from the family side.  There’s that expression ‘when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.’  It isn’t just mama.  For a kid, it’s bad if anyone in authority is pissed.  So there’s that conditioning too, to take flack whenever people are having a bad day.

Imagine the universal energy like an ocean.  When many people experience similar emotions, it forms waves in the universal energy.  People who are unprotected are tossed around by those waves like flotsam.  They may watch CNN and be as immersed in the trauma of what is happening as those who have houses under water, as those in threat of their lives, because those waves of emotion are bombarding them with the very emotions felt by the people in the midst of the event.  Then, it’s very difficult to distinguish that emotion from your own because it’s affecting your body.

Imagine your personal energy flowing through you like a column of white light.  It flows in both directions simultaneously:  in through the crown and out through your feet; and in through your feet and out through your crown.  It looks like a pillar of light: a column.  It may look like fire, or stone, or a whirlwind or a pillar of water.  The element will be what is appropriate to you, whatever feels right.

Imagine your column standing in the ocean of the universal energy.  Root it deep in the heart of the earth.  Anchor it to God, or the Universe, at the Source.  When your intention is to form a column, the waves bashing around in the universal energy do not push you around, or influence you with the rushes of emotion.  Not only do the waves go around you, but their force is diminished by the impact with your energy, so that you are also helping the earth and it’s people by reducing the impact of these traumas.

If you’d like to do more to help, imagine your light beaming out from your column, so that your glow is a beacon in the turmoil, giving to everyone.  This effect increases the flow through you, which is also beneficial to you.

With practice, you can keep a column in place all the time.  That’s a good thing.  In the beginning, think about doing it once a day, or whenever you think of the tragedies.  The more you do this, the more you protect yourself.  It also trains your body and your limbic system to feel safe in the midst of all that is happening.  Thinking about the spiritual purpose of these events doesn’t really cut it, you have to do the energy work to really affect your reactions.

Keep in mind that there is a resistance to change.  Parts of your subconscious think it’s appropriate to react, and will resist protecting yourself.  This is all tied to suffering because others are suffering, being a caring person, and other false belief programs that abound in our society.  Remember, you are helping others as well as yourself when you column up:  this is an active form of caring.

If you’re having strong reactions, here’s how to increase the protection.  Every time you go up to the ‘ocean’ and form your column, sit for a while and feel the peace of being in that column state.  Let that sense of peace permeate you, and then bring it back with you to your body.  That trains your body to hold the peace.  Keep doing this part until your body stops reacting.  What you are doing is retraining your body’s reactions, so that it doesn’t go into the reaction state, and that may take a while.  It’s definitely worth the effort, both to be rid of the reactions you’re currently having, and to establish a new pattern so future events don’t trouble you.