This Unlock is tailored for releasing challenges about personal choices and lifestyle.  It is quite long so it’s broken up into tracks.  It’s important to always use the final track for Detox to prevent negative effects.   We suggest that you always use Track 1 and Track 4, and choose which of the two middle tracks you’d like to play each time.  If you are experienced with Unlock, you may also use Track 1 and 4 to do an Unlock for your own purposes, allowing some time between with music or quiet.

cd1 Track 01-Preparation
cd1 Track 02-Your experience of others
cd1 Track 03-Internalized Patterns
cd1 Track 04-Integration and Detox

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When I look at that energy of that, there’s lines right into the fabric of what narcissism is, and how the structures of our culture are formed.  I’m watching this energy pattern and it’s thoroughly entwined in all sorts of things.

These are the pattern pieces, NOT the truth, so beware how you read them.   The pattern works like this:  parent projects that controlling people is for their own good, so the parent will be safe and the people will be safe — Parent projects that you should help parent control people to protect parent and to protect others, including you —Parent will hurt you to control them with message that’s the right thing for everyone — This gives belief that loving others requires that you allow them to hurt you, and specifically to hurt you to control others. That’s a really good summary of the whole narcissism model.

Consider how green box programs might come from religious teaching. The church stuff says you’re supposed to be forgiving and accepting and supportive and all that good stuff.  This is independent of circumstances, so it doesn’t specify ‘learn how to keep yourself safe from abusive people, and by the way forgiving someone does not mean you have them in your life.’   Without that protection of self, it’s victim programming.

On the other hand you’re supposed to do the ‘right thing.’  What does right thing mean, and how does it work with family loyalty, or social rules like laws?  Now there’s a recipe for contradiction.  It’s actually quite stunning in its ridiculousness when you look at it that way.  There’s no win.  It’s an eternal conflict – that would be very effective in achieving victim/peasant.

From the relationship angle, it’s pretty much the same model, isn’t it?  Do the right thing, be the perfect wife/husband.  What is that?  Take care of everyone else, have no demands or needs.  Be supportive and approving.  Have a ‘good’ family.  It’s all polar splits.  It’s all a mess.

When the contradictory social requirements are added to the green box traumas of childhood, a person has no idea how to know what feels right for them.  They create contradictory values inside themselves that propagate their struggles about what is right, so they feel uncertain.

Clearing green box traumas will allow you to define values for yourself that feel right, and let you know what to do in all situations.  Check out the unlock tool.

And since the God stuff is mirrored by your primary partner relationship, that would mean getting rained on whenever your partner is upset about something, even when it has nothing to do with you.

There’s a good one to clear.

Now take the same program from the family side.  There’s that expression ‘when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.’  It isn’t just mama.  For a kid, it’s bad if anyone in authority is pissed.  So there’s that conditioning too, to take flack whenever people are having a bad day.